Many of us were taught to chase power through influence, achievement, and control. But we were rarely taught the truth.

Is real power quiet? Does it grow in a regulated nervous system?

When a Single Glance Could Shatter You

There was a time when a cold tone, a distant look, or an unanswered message could unravel us entirely. We would spiral by replaying the moment, dissecting words, and obsessing over their perceptions. Worst of all, we sometimes allow their responses to define our worth, performance, and brilliance.

We over-explained, pleaded silently for validation, desperate to prove we deserved their regard. Then, something shifted.

The Shift: From Reaction to Sovereignty

We realized that these spirals were not weaknesses; they were the nervous system fighting for survival. True power starts when we pause and notice the spirals, but choose to breathe instead of react.

Healing the nervous system is not just about feeling better. It is about unlocking the authority you were always meant to have over yourself, your choices, and your energy. It is the difference between reacting and responding, surviving and creating, being driven by fear and led by vision.

The Body Remembers What the Mind Forgot

Healing the nervous system is not just about a mindset shift; it is about regulating our bodies. The spirals were never flaws. They were survival mechanisms, and ancient alarms blaring at the threat of rejection, abandonment, and shame. Until we feel safe within ourselves, we will continue to react from that primal place.

The real work is somatic and emotional. It is learning to sit with discomfort without self-betrayal. It is pausing long enough to hear our inner child before he/she lunges into chaos, over-functioning, over-stimulating, or over-exhausting the pursuit of perfection.

True Power Does Not Plead to Be Seen

The world rewards urgency and reactivity. But what is true power?

• True power is not needing to prove a thing. 
• You cannot fake it. You either have it or you do not.
• True power is not loud. It is not frantic. It does not plead to be seen.
• True power is calm. 

A War Strategy

Healing our nervous system is not a soft luxury; it is a war strategy. It is the reclamation of our right to remain steady while the world tries to pull us apart. It signifies the end of performing strength and the beginning of becoming it.

When we heal our nervous system, we stop leaking energy into fear, overthinking, or self-betrayal. We stop confusing survival with success. Our “no” becomes non-negotiable. Our “yes” becomes sovereign.

True Power is showing up for yourself ... over and over ... no matter what.

The Unshaken Choice: Standing in Your Truth

• Regulate your body.
• Rewire your reactions.
• Remember who you were before fear taught you to abandon yourself.

True power rewards presence. And that presence is only possible when our nervous system is no longer at war with itself. This is where our true power lives. Once you taste it, you will never give it back.

One of the most profound lessons I learned? Healing your nervous system does not mean losing yourself when others disregard, dislike, or dismiss you. Your power lies not in changing their minds but in standing, unshaken, in your truth.

True power is quiet! When was the last time you traded yours for validation?

Vandrisse Zephyr